Thursday, April 16, 2009

254 Posts.


After a number of months of doing this, I feel like many of you know me very well at this point. The part of my personality you havent been privy to is the one that seems to always get me into trouble.

For whatever reason, I'm a guy who seems to create trouble in relationships that I really enjoy. I don't really know what the reason is, and I am not so misguided that I just think that these things are ALL my fault, but I think that other people do a far better job of avoiding these land mines than I do. Im WAY too sensitive, WAY too controlling, WAAAAY too proud, and WAY too emotional. It could be the reason is that I like to confront things head on, assess blame (even when involves assessing blame to myself), find a solution, and try not to let it happen again. Maybe that is the ultimate proof that I am, in fact, male. But to take it back to the theme of my blog, it is quite possible I have some big life lessons yet to learn.

Im not going to be blogging for a while. Some things have happened lately, nothing to do with any of you, but kind of emotional stuff with a couple of friends that are making it increasingly hard for me to be here, and be happy about it. I wont be posting about any of the mess, unless I find myself in a position of having to defend myself. Otherwise, I am not into airing dirty blog laundry.

So I am backing away from it, and I hope to come back. I dont really know when, or if, but I hope this feeling goes away so I can enjoy this again.

I am in the process of moving Tuesday's Tribute to new ownership, and I will leave more on that soon when I work out the details. I will always be available on email, and will be reading you still, and sometimes maybe a comment if I cant contain myself. ;-)

Thanks for sharing space and time with me. I hope to be back.

Fondly,

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69 comments:

angie said...

You'd better be back. You are going to be so incredibly missed.

I'm going to wear black today in your honor.......you know, the sad day that Jay "just took a break". Cuz I'm counting on it just being a break. Right?

Hugs, Jay.

Tonya said...

Oh no Jay!!!!!

I really am going to miss you! I don't comment a lot, but I definately read your blog consistently, and I have always LOVED it!!!

Please don't stay away too long!! You have often brought some joy to my days, I'll be missing you!! (-:

Candace Jean July 16 said...

I will miss your posts, but your reasons are completely understood. Peace. Breathe.

Cheryl said...

I will definately miss your posts. If you need any help with the Tributes, let me know.

MamaJoss said...

Darn, and I just subscribed to ya! Best of luck to you...come back soon...

Liz (Loving Mom 2 Boys) said...

Oh Jay, I am so sorry to hear that. You are such a joy to have around.

Do what you need to do, do what is best...and know that many of us adore you and will gladly have you back whether it be next week or next year.

Samantha said...

Oh no! Your breakin my heart! I sincerely do hope things work themselves out and you return. You have been such an inspiration to me with your willingness to help. If you don't return, you will be missed. Best of luck to you and all you do.

Crafty Christina said...

Don't worry about us, Jay. We'll be here when you decide to come back. Hope you're able to work everything out.

mommaof4wife2r said...

oh seriously, you had better come back...and i mean that!

sad that "stuff" is happening...but take some time, but please come back...you make blogworld so much funner...is that a word??

any way i can help?

Kristina P. said...

Wow, I will miss you, but I have to say, I really appreciate you not airing dirty blog laundry.

I get really uncomfortable when people go after people in their lives on their blogs.

Come back soon!

MamabearMills said...

*tear

The Mom Jen said...

Do you need me to crack some skulls!? Because I can find someone big and burly to do it...because i'm a big chicken!

Don't be gone for long!

CassJustCurious said...

Take care - we'll be here when you get back.

Beck said...

Sorry to hear the bad news! I can honestly say that you write one of my favorite blogs, and you will be missed. I hope it really will be only a break!

I hope everything works out for you!!

Alicia said...

WTF Jay? I just joined your blog a few weeks ago and now your taking a "break".. Is it me, lol. Just picking at ya.

I hope you take this time to get back to being who you love to be. Good luck with everything and I wish you the best. Come back soon PLEASE!

Your going to be missed so much by many.

BenLand said...

oh no!! i just recently started following your blog...you can't leave now!?!! but, i guess ya gotta do what ya gotta do......hope you'll be back soon..

Em said...

I hope this all works itself out - take care of yourself in the interim.

Em - anxiously awaiting your return.

MLC's Mom said...

OH SNAP!!!! ;o(

LeAnna said...

Thia is definately a sad day now, great! THANKS! Hope you get your sh*t straight! Good luck with all that. And hope it is "just a break"!

Lee said...

We'll really miss you, Jay.
Now I feel really sad. I love reading your blog.

CaJoh said...

We look forward to post 255. I hope that things work out and you can get back— you'll be missed while you're away.

Tony@ That One Paticular Harbor said...

What the Hell? Halftime Lessons is my first stop every morning. Every morning. You know I got your back any day of the week my brother. If I need to come and exert a little VT muscle for you, you let me know. You have been my mentor to this madness. Come on your jerking with us. Really? I wish you the best pal. I hope your messing around and if not I hope all works out for you. Let me know if you need anything.

kisatrtle said...

Here's hoping you won't leave us forever...

blueviolet@A Nut in a Nutshell said...

You will be missed and I hope you'll be back. :)

Lisa @ Crazy Adventures in Parenting said...

Jay :( I am soooo so so sad. My husband and I both enjoy reading you so much. I hope that, if there's anything I can do, you will email, ok? *huge huge hugs*

Annie said...

Hang in there, Jay!

Clare said...

jay, you are going to be sooo missed! i hope you come back soon:)

April said...

oh boo :-(

The Daily Blonde said...

Dammit, Jay. That's just not right. Come back soon. You OK?????

Under the Influence said...

Damn, I hope you come back soon. You are one of only two male bloggers I follow and I like your take on things.

Take care and I hope things get cleared up for you and the others involved.

Peace out.

Laura said...

Sad to see you go. Your my only male blog I read... Best of luck!

Brittany said...

Wha? OMG? Why? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

I hope you come back...soon. Very very soon.

You can't just get people hooked and then up and leave.

I don't know how to quit you, Jay!

Mary@Holy Mackerel said...

Well, that's really too bad, Jay. I hope you get it all figured out, things smooth out, and you come back, because otherwise I'd really miss you.

Take care.

jill jill bo bill said...

Freaker, you better not be talking about me! I am going to miss you like crazy. Please keep in touch. Who will stalk me now?

Young Momma said...

I hope YOU'RE okay. I'll miss you!!!! (((huggggggssss))) Come back soon!

SweetPeaSurry said...

You'll be missed, I wish the brightest blessings for you and yours.

Sharlene said...

If blogging is something you truly love then don't let anyone else take that from you. Shit happens. You can't keep everyone happy all the time but as long as you know you are doing what is in the best interest of your family, yourself, and your morals, you can't go wrong. I hope its a short break because you will be sorely missed.

Jen said...

Why do people have to be mean? I hope that you find your answers.

Beth said...

You just made me cry.

I hope things settle down. Life can be ridiculously hard at times. You have a gift for making people laugh. Don't forget that lesson.

Ren said...

I stalk your blog daily. I hope to see you back soon! Your posts will be greatly missed =)

Denise @ Sunflowers, Chocolate and Little Boys said...

Well that just sucks. I dont want you to go. I want you to stay. Waaaaa!

At least come back quick....how can you not?!? We will all have a very large void without your funny posts.

Sera said...

Well, shucks. This is sad news. I love your blog - you're on my list of daily reads, so I'll really miss your humor and insight. Hope you'll be back soon, and I'm sorry for whatever's going on.

jsprik said...

oh jay, i'm so sorry you aren't having fun!!! :( let me know if i can help in any way!! until then....take care!! hope to see you soon!!

Kelly said...

you will be missed! I hope you sort out all of your "stuff" and get back to us here in the blogosphere soon!

EADotCom said...

Goodness! Just as I was getting hooked on to your site....

Bee and Rose said...

I'll miss you and Jaegan!

Momma@Live. Laugh. Pull your hair out said...

*GASP*

WHAT?

*sniff sniff*

I need a tissue.

...love Maegan said...

well, the word "lessons" is in your title so I suppose it's fitting.

Hope everything is okay ...I'm betting you'll be back though ;)

Amy@Bitchin'WivesClub said...

Thanks for everything, Jay. You've been a great presence on the web and I will always hold you dear as one of the first supporters of my blog. :) Good luck with everything and I hope you make it back to us, filled with joy and with a new mission. ;-)

xoxo
Amy

Jenni Jiggety said...

Whaaaaaaat?

Well, hurry back because the internet NEEDS you.

Jenn@mylifewiththecrazies said...

Ok I am showing up late for the party... I cant believe this. I am sad.... I am shocked ... I am miserable! You are one of my favorite bloggers... please come back soon.... and I hope everything turns out ok!! Thoughts and prayers for you!

Elaine A. said...

We can talk "Friends" here again, right?

"BUT WE WERE ON A BREAK!" Now I have to go find some other Daddy blogger to stalk. Great. ; )

Hope to "see" you again sooner than later.

Becky said...

Wow, am I behind in the times.
I hope you can work out whatever's going on and that you will be back someday.

texasholly said...

Good luck. I am not very good at emotional warfare so I have no advice. Crap, that isn't true, I ALWAYS have advice...duck, avoid and ignore?

Will be here...
waiting.

Might re-arrange the furniture a bit. I do that when I get bored.

Lee of MWOB said...

Wow.

I'm really behind on the news. We all have our dips dude. That's for damn sure. Hang in there. I'm sure you'll be back. :-)

Em said...

Hello? (echo...hello?)

Sniff.

Now who's going to keep me up to date on the best wine deals at Walmart?

(Picks up her glass and slinks out the door...)

Jenners said...

Ummmmmmm... OK.
See you around then.

Kristen Andrews said...

come back soon you will be missed.

Fresh Mommy said...

Jay, I truly wish you well with all that's going on. Hope you're able to breathe, and get through it all with your head held high. We'll all be here... waiting. Hope to see you again. You were a breath of fresh air and you'll be missed!!

:)
Tabitha

Michelle said...

Jay -- I'm sorry to hear that your aren't going to be blogging. I really enjoy your insight and sense of humor. Hopefully the dirty laundry will get cleaned, hung out to dry and you will be back to entertain us.

Take Care.

Rhonda said...

I've been having trouble lately too. Sometime's it just gets to be too much with everything else going on out there! I do hope it's only a short break, and that things get better for you, and that you can come back soon.

Thinking of you and wishing you well!

**Hugs**

Ali said...

Okay. You may take a break. But just a short one, okay? Take care:)

BoufMom9 said...

Wow jay. I could've written this very same post today.
I am going to be taking a bit of a break myself, after all my preposted blog posts are done (and of course, i will do the Tuesday Blog Party)
I have had something happen with some "friends" and I am just so tired of it all...
I hope you are able to resolve your issues.
I will miss your mostly cheerful posts.

MoziEsmé said...

Hope all works out for you - and looking forward to seeing you back one of these days...

Eddo said...

WTF? You can't just go leaving me as the only dude at our DFW blogger dinners, especially when we were just getting to know each other. I mean, we were almost close enough that I could ask you to help me clean out my garage and put up a new deck. Heck man, this blows.

For real, I know what it is like to have to put your blog on hold for a while and so do it, but remember, blogging is for you, not your readers and so it might sound cliche but to thine ownself be... just kidding, haha. I started to get all deep, whatev, you need to tell those people to shove it and get back to blogging with your bald self.

~K~ said...

What? I don't log on for a few days cause of work and then I find out you're leaving us? I hope it's temporary. I really enjoy your blog. Take care of what you need to, get in a better place and come back to join us again. :)

Mama Kat said...

Does this have anything to do with the daddy dearest post? You know I've gotten myself into a LOT of trouble with my blog...a lot.

There is always tension between my oldest sister and I because of things I've said about her on the blog that I don't think were offensive AT ALL.

My wacko assistant found all the mean things I said about her when she google searched my entire family by name. She then proceeded to create drama within the daycare by telling parents things she shouldn't and reporting me to my licensor...it's a long story...do already know it? I forget who has access to that super secret blog of mine.

Anywhooo...I feel your pain and have also been forced to re-examine my blog and what purpose it serves. But I refuse to stop. I'm a little more careful about saying things that might be deemed hurtful by people, but they don't have to read...

Good luck to you sir.

Colleen - Mommy Always Wins said...

I hope you'll be back, too.

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

Sometimes Life needs to take precedence...you will be sorely missed, but hopefully back sooner than later and just as witty, entertaining and thought provoking as ever... ((HUGZ!))

posthumous pointer
To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give of one's self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived - this is to have succeeded. - Emerson