tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post7072222193551394385..comments2023-11-03T04:16:21.918-07:00Comments on halftime lessons: Kids, Parents, and Sports: It's Their Turn.Halftime Lessonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11496754112523393227noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-83488704938092533842009-09-06T21:03:05.127-07:002009-09-06T21:03:05.127-07:00Has anybody read "Our Boys: A Perfect Season ...Has anybody read "Our Boys: A Perfect Season on the Plains with the Smith Center Redmen" by Joe Drape?<br /><br />I haven't read it; I just heard an interview with the author this weekend on NPR, and it seemed relevant to this discussion of sportsmanship and the relative importance of winning.<br /><br />NPR interview: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=112589840<br /><br />Amazon book listing: http://www.amazon.com/Our-Boys-Perfect-Season-Plains/dp/0805088903/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1252295281&sr=8-1Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17006998033107125428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-19915390679129078832009-09-06T12:21:04.616-07:002009-09-06T12:21:04.616-07:00I was just flipping through the stations and there...I was just flipping through the stations and there's High School football on tv.<br /><br />Only in Texas?Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00084508582913500810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-5182124174397030482009-09-05T06:11:52.476-07:002009-09-05T06:11:52.476-07:00I am all for competition, but first they much lear...I am all for competition, but first they much learn sportsmanship and the rules of the game. Overzealous parents that you speak of have crossed the line and do need to reel it in, but encouraging and teaching are what will make the child love the game and want to excel.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-30521738583644433332009-09-04T22:34:13.768-07:002009-09-04T22:34:13.768-07:00I remember when my oldest son was in league soccer...I remember when my oldest son was in league soccer. There was one @$$hole dad whose son was by far the best player on my son's team but who *never* gave that poor 10-year-old any affirmation, only grief. He yelled at him constantly during games, telling him how to play, scolding him whenever he made a mistake. He even yelled when the kid did something well but just not as well as he could have. It was abuse. If it had happened just a couple of years later, the refs probably would have made this dad leave the field.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17006998033107125428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-446199771587326002009-09-04T19:28:24.781-07:002009-09-04T19:28:24.781-07:00It is funny how childrens sports can turn parents ...It is funny how childrens sports can turn parents into nightmares! I really hate the parents that spend the whole game yelling at their children; the children are there to have fun for hell sake.Bob and Jenn Peacockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11490001480782220805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-32636960580369938862009-09-04T13:16:01.553-07:002009-09-04T13:16:01.553-07:00I've never agreed with the people that get sup...I've never agreed with the people that get super crazy at games, but I've always had this inner hatred for those games that "don't keep score". "We just want the kids to have fun".<br />Sports are a way to teach kids HEALTHY competition, and working for something. <br />It's always been a pet-peeve of mine.Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06675576869395449536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-87027492316097111992009-09-04T11:16:34.185-07:002009-09-04T11:16:34.185-07:00I was never athletic growing up, so there aren'...I was never athletic growing up, so there aren't many stories from brief playing days. However, if my son does get interested in sports it is my job to encourage him. I would hope that the competition would drive him, but at the same time I expect both of us to act honorably, even if we feel that he has been 'robbed'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-75896606575322700702009-09-04T10:34:41.292-07:002009-09-04T10:34:41.292-07:00And this is why I have been dragging my feet about...And this is why I have been dragging my feet about getting my children involved in the team sports. I can barely handle the competitiveness of the academic world with some of my friends - athletics would crush me. And yes I mean the adults. The children couldn't care less who's smarter or faster or better at the game/task. They just want to make sure there are snacks afterward.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07064285786209560776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-76190317107139121852009-09-04T09:51:07.652-07:002009-09-04T09:51:07.652-07:00AMEN!
We had a dad on our team who would yell at ...AMEN!<br /><br />We had a dad on our team who would yell at his kid from the sidelines and tell him what to do. He always listened to the dad over the coach because dad would be the one to reem him out in the car if he made a mistake! It was pathetic.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02921336810725430983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-9404515591216022742009-09-04T09:05:44.707-07:002009-09-04T09:05:44.707-07:00My father came to every, single one of my baseball...My father came to every, single one of my baseball, football, soccer, and basketball games all the way through high school. He never really said anything, but "Good job," although one time he said he thought I'd been ripped off by an umpire.<br /><br />When I was a senior in high school he let me know that he had a meeting and simply couldn't make it to my soccer game that afternoon. Here I was 18, and my dad had seen every game I'd ever played. I told him, "No problem," I understood.<br /><br />Just after half time I looked over to the sidelines and there he was. Man, I never felt more loved in my life.Teacher Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606781724784785338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-76384771682548873772009-09-04T08:57:49.224-07:002009-09-04T08:57:49.224-07:00I'm all for competition, but some of the paren...I'm all for competition, but some of the parents need to be banned from the games. My youngest plays football. At the last meeting, the coach mentioned parents calling him to ask why their kid wasn't playing. I told my kid I would never do that. He needs to prove himself on the field and in practice. I will be there cheering him on, no matter where he is standing.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12661471233947234926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-57931771631127044622009-09-04T08:38:57.927-07:002009-09-04T08:38:57.927-07:00Great post jay!
my approach to my kids extra activ...Great post jay!<br />my approach to my kids extra activities is support thats it, nothing more nothing less...it's their world now...I just blog in it...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13755834803574964576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-77236834386871967672009-09-04T08:11:05.984-07:002009-09-04T08:11:05.984-07:00Jay... I so needed this NOW! Right in the middle o...Jay... I so needed this NOW! Right in the middle of football... mind if I share the link... I know some parents who NEED to read this!!Jenn@ The Crazieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09989338883714465614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-54675603878998634212009-09-04T07:39:17.672-07:002009-09-04T07:39:17.672-07:00Great message Jay. We try to encourage and cheer o...Great message Jay. We try to encourage and cheer our boys on, no matter if they are doing great or not-so-great. We want them to enjoy it.Denise @ Sunflowers, Chocolate and Little Boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699534143217246831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-27720690776192756912009-09-04T06:51:27.247-07:002009-09-04T06:51:27.247-07:00Daddy Files-
I don't think competition is pat...Daddy Files-<br /><br />I don't think competition is pathetic. I think competition is a pathetic excuse for poor parental control on the sidelines.<br /><br />I have a 5yrold little girl who just started soccer, and already there is a father who is trying to control the game and tell the coach what to do from the sidelines DURING play.<br /><br />I think that teaching competitiveness is important. But that quickly translates to poor decision making when you are yelling from the sidelines. His little girl, and mine for that matter, have no idea whether he is yelling FOR them, or AT them.<br /><br />That was the point I was trying to make.<br /><br />I agree, competition is good.<br /><br />But sideline behavior isnt always.Halftime Lessonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11496754112523393227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395084220660944478.post-53087823898750797382009-09-04T06:24:35.825-07:002009-09-04T06:24:35.825-07:00Fanatics=Bad. Competition=Good.
Competition does ...Fanatics=Bad. Competition=Good.<br /><br />Competition does build strength. Team sports do teach cooperation. And winning is a good thing. Sure when they first start out it's about having fun and learning the game. No question. But as they get older it becomes more than that.<br /><br />I hope when my son is a teenager that he does get upset when he loses. After all, you play to have fun but also to win. It's not a bad thing to teach our children that winning is important. It's not everything, but it's important. But it's certainly not a "pathetic argument" as you put it.<br /><br />There's a middle ground there that I hope to strive for as a future sports parent. You don't have to be either a raving sports parent lunatic or a hippie who gives out participation ribbons to every player regardless of performance. As long as you're supportive, teach a genuine love for the game and don't overdo it then you'll be fine as a sports parent.<br /><br />But let's not treat competition and winning like they are evil concepts. Doing that simply raises the level of mediocrity instead of encouraging excellence.Daddy Fileshttp://daddyfiles.comnoreply@blogger.com